Staying Positive, Boundaries, & Life With Yanina Oyarzo

IW 11 | Yanina Oyarzo

 

Being an immigrant, battling racism and adjusting to a new environment are things that can be hindrances to a successful life. However, for Venezuelan-American lifestyle influencer, Yanina Oyarzo, it is all about staying positive. Through her social media channel, Yanina targets young female hustlers like her and encourages beauty positivity. In this episode, she narrates how she came to America, learned English, and enjoyed being with different races. There is good and bad in everything, and she shares her point of view about equality among people. Join Yanina as she takes us through her adventure of love and friendship, and leaves advice to young women who feel their current reality will always be their norm for their life.

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Staying Positive, Boundaries, & Life With Yanina Oyarzo

We have the beautiful Yanina here. I’m super excited to be talking to her. We were thinking about what we want to talk about and I’m like, “I want to talk about you. Your life is interesting.” Let’s get started. You were born in Venezuela?

I was born in Venezuela, which for a lot of people, they don’t know where that is, which is weird. It’s in South America and next to Colombia. A fun fact about Venezuela is that they hold the reign for the most Miss Universe. It’s also the worst place right now government-wise.

Why? What’s going on?

Basically, the old president tried to turn it into Cuba. He was obsessed with Fidel. I’ll give you a little backstory. They’ll open a supermarket and it will be open for one hour and people will be making a line to be able to get one item. They’ll be making the line for eight hours. The government will turn off the internet whenever they feel like it. It’s caused a riot. They brought in Cuban doctors at one point and fired all the Venezuelan doctors. It’s intense. All my family, thankfully, for the most part, has migrated. I have my grandma who’s very old and can’t travel and a few family members still there. They overpriced everything. Something that’s normally $30 now costs $350 to $500. It’s just to the point that a lot of people have tried to cross the border to go to Colombia. There are people living under the bridge right over the border of Colombia.

People have gone from being doctors to being waiters now in different countries because their licenses doesn’t work. It sucks in that sense, but it’s still a country that I grew up in. I lived there until I was seven or eight. I remember that I moved to Miami by the time I needed to start first grade. I wasn’t supposed to start at first grade. I skipped a year and when I moved here, I remember I believe March was the month. It was the end of the school year basically, already halfway through and they were like, “She doesn’t know English, so we can’t put her in school this late in.” They told me that I had to wait until the next school year and I was either going to be an ESOL or I needed to know English. The way I learned English was, and we were living at my step grandma’s house at that time in Miami in Krome, I watched movies all summer long.

I used to watch The Fresh Prince a lot and I would put in the caption. Still to this day, I like watching TV with closed captions because I would just read that, understand what the action was happening in the movie or in the show and pronounce it correctly based on that. By the end of the summer, I went from only saying, “I don’t know,” to speaking in English. My mom bought me Hooked on Phonics, which at that time I believe it was a pricey system. I don’t ever have memories of learning from Hooked on Phonics. I never went to ESOL. I was in all honors and advanced classes. It was closed captioning and watching movies.

I learned in first grade when I came here. My mom came to two classes with me and helped me. I learned with just communicating, one-on-one experience and movies.

It also helps that we were younger.

Kids are like sponges for sure.

I wish I would have been thrown in at an Italian class or something because I would have been so versatile.

You would’ve had 1, 2, 3 languages. You speak Spanish too. What was it like in Miami? Growing up in the States, I bet it was different.

It was fun, I think. I didn’t realize a lot of differences. For one, there are so many things when you come from a third world country that you don’t realize in the States they have. For one of them, racism is completely different in a third world country than it is here in the States. There’s for sure racism in the sense of within your own culture, within your own family. I didn’t know about racism until I moved here, for example. I have a big family, fifteen aunts and uncles, over 100 and something cousins and we’re like the shades of the rainbow. The color spectrum of my family is blonde, blue eyes to very dark. I never grew up feeling anything about racism. I loved being tan. I was as tan as a kid. I remember that when I first went to school, it wasn’t a bad school, but the majority was African-American and I didn’t think it was anything out of the ordinary.

If anything, I think I felt more secluded when I moved to the States with Caucasian people because I didn’t speak their language. I couldn’t relate. I didn’t have blonde hair, I wasn’t fair-skinned and I didn’t speak perfect English. I was almost as dark as some of my friends and I had curly, frizzy hair and there were similarities in that. They also lived like my family, so I felt close to them. I learned with time that racism was heavy. I also know and even the family that my mom married into, some family members were very racist. It was something that I didn’t understand and grasp why.

What do you mean racist though? Would they make remarks?

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Remarks about us not looking a certain way. I remember my mom felt affected. Mother-in-laws are tough, everybody knows that. I could tell now from an older view, looking in like a fly on the wall type of thing, I remember how my mom used to feel so attacked by his mother. It wasn’t because of anything but race. At the end of the day, it’s a family generational thing. If that’s how you were raised, that’s all you know. I am grateful that I was born in Venezuela. Beauty to me was everything. I saw beauty in the fairness of skins and I saw beauty in the darkest of skins. That’s why when it comes to my friends, I have friends from so many different walks of lives, from so many different parts of the world, from so many different tax brackets because I don’t base it on that. To me that is like, “Who cares?”

We’re all human. I think once people can see that we are all human, we’re just different on the outside. You and I have a kidney. We have a heart. You’re tan and I’m white.

This is what I was talking about that everybody’s too sensitive and people are probably going to hate me at this point and be like, “Screw this girl.” I’m all about having a say and this is what I have a strong say about. The same thing goes for religion. I grew up Catholic. I turned Christian when I was 10, 11 years old but I have Jewish friends, Buddhist friends and atheist friends. I have friends that their higher power is energy and other friends that their higher power is crystals. I love crystals. I truly 1000% believe in energy. I’ve read about Judaism and Buddhism. To me, they all have four fundamental similarities: be a nice person, speak with love, don’t judge people and spread kindness.

Be normal. Stop looking at people like, “You’re black, you’re Asian, you’re Jewish.” No, you’re human. It doesn’t matter.

There’s good and bad in everything. There’s good and bad in rich and poor people, in middle-class people. There’s good and bad in Hispanics, Latins, Asians and Europeans.

Because there are all different types of humans.

It’s all about what you have been through and how you have decided to deal with it, which then goes into the way I am as a person nowadays. I was talking to you about how I’m very girly. I’m very pink and flowers. I even talked about this on my Instagram Story because I was frustrated. I was in a conversation with my videographer and it was about the fact of being perceived incorrectly, especially in a world of social media. I don’t think people take a second to think twice before they talk to someone, before they deal with an issue. It’s my blessing and curse, you can say. When I have an argument with someone, I’m like, “How is it that they’re possibly seeing it? Why are they seeing it that way? Based on what I know their traumas to be or their weaknesses and per se to be, why are they perceiving it this way and how can I talk to them for them to understand me and for it to help them?”

I always say we don’t have to be the best of friends, but if I at least was able to help you at one point in your life in a conversation and something I pushed you in and something that when the conversation ended, whether you admitted it or not, you walked away and thought about it, cool. I want you to be able to better yourself in your own time, in your own journey. I can’t rush that journey for you. I’m not God. I’m not better than you. I may deal with anger in a different way. You may be a very angry type of person. I’m quiet and I think things through, but I’m very detailed once I talked to you about it.

It is not my job to tell you what you’re doing is wrong. Who am I to attack you? If I’m able to have enough conversations with you or be an example of how I deal with it, and you might be like, “How do you deal with it, Yanina?” that strikes conversations and whatever. At one point, it just clicks in your brain that, “I need to work on this, not because I told you, but because you realized that on your own. That’s dope to me. I planted a seed in you to be a better person on your own. I didn’t push you to it. That’s where I see my relationship.

I like how you explained that. You planted the seed and they did it on their own.

You’ve got to water it on your own. I can plant the seed and the plant will die if you don’t take care of it. I’m not you.

Do you feel like you do that a lot on social media? What’s something that you struggle with when it comes to social media?

I think the algorithm if I’m 100% honest.

Do you get a lot of hate comments?

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Yanina Oyarzo: Racism is completely different in a third world country than it is in the States.

 

No, but I have in the past. I get random fake profiles being very detailed in their thoughts. It’s usually people that I could tell some will have to know me because they’ll say certain things and I’m like, “Interesting in that you’re talking about that, but I just don’t accept it.” On Instagram, you can accept the outside DMs or not. I won’t strike a conversation with you. I’m not going to try to prove a point to a person that has no picture or that has a picture and I could tell is a fake account. I think if anything, it’s telling me more about you. You went out of your way to have to state a point to let me know what you think about whatever. There are guys that have been rude. There have also been positive comments. There are girls that have told me that my positive post that sometimes I post out of encouragement for myself because I’m going through something at the time has helped them.

It’s so funny because I post sometimes quotes that I’ve had saved for weeks or months. People are like, “Are you okay?” I’m like, “I promise, I’m fine.” They’re like, “Is it a guy?” I’m like, “It’s not always a relationship.” Just because it’s a quote about confidence or positivity or you go girl or know your worth. You can lose the value and your worth from family problems, from your own evil voice, from a job not happening, from a guy, from how you view yourselves and argument with a friend. I’m like, “If I perceived this quote this way, maybe if I post it, it will touch them as well.” I get the most replies when I post quotes from guys.

I was going to say I get a response when I post quotes in general.

No, I get it from guys being like, “I had a rough day today. I’m arguing with my sister, I’m arguing with my girlfriend, I’m arguing with my wife,” or “I have big insecurity in this.” Why they DM me, I don’t know. Genuinely there’s this one guy that has followed me for two years and he’s always like, “I had a hard day. This helps me. I’ve got to work on this insecurity or this thing of mine.” I’m like, “Okay.”

They feel comfortable talking to you, which says a lot about you as a person.

I guess they’re comfortable with me because I am still very approachable. At least, I would hope I am.

How do you stay so positive? When you’re having a bad day or something doesn’t go your way or something was off, how do you stay positive? Is there something you do? Usually, if I’m depressed or something upsets me, I let myself go through the emotions. I let myself ride the wave and then I just snap myself out of it. If I want to cry, I’ll cry. If I want to bitch about something the whole day, I’ll do it.

I’ve been going through something and I’m trying to figure out how to project it correctly because I am all about feel. If you need a moment to feel, feel. If you need a moment to cry, cry. If you need to be in bed, be in bed. I was going through something and I was talking to my friend on the phone and I just went on a tangent about an article I read online. She stayed quiet and she’s like, “Are you done?” I was like, “I ripped that article in pieces.” She’s like, “Let me know when you’re done because you’re going through it.” I was like, “It’s not even about the article.” She goes, “I know.” I was like, “I’m sorry if I sound crazy.” She’s like, “You’re letting it out. I’d rather you let it on the phone about this article than to a random friend.”

When I was younger, I was bad at that. I used to attack people a lot based out of anger that had to do with home stuff. Because I didn’t have anybody to talk to about it. I didn’t know how to express it and I was just confused a lot of the time why a lot of things were happening at home. I would be mean at times to my friends. I think now I write a lot. I’ve gone to therapy a lot while growing up. As an adult, I still do therapy or self-help books. I try to be honest with myself of, “Where are you not the strongest in?” You’re saying this is my weakness doesn’t make you weak.

I think it makes you stronger because you realize the issue.

I had a conversation with a friend and I said, “What is one of your weaknesses?” Their response was, “I’m not weak.” No, get out of your ego for a second. That’s not what I’m talking about. I said this out loud. I said, “I’m so strong in so many different parts of my life. My strength isn’t relationships.” It’s just not. Love is not a topic I’m super good at figuring out. I’m a very loving person but I don’t make the best decisions in love.

What do you mean? Like in a relationship, you don’t make the best decisions?

In friendships too. I’m extremely over forgiving. I will see too much little bit the other person’s side to the point where I become an enabler. I’m okay when they treat me like crap and they’re my friends, but I go far and beyond for them. There are times where I’ve helped people in companies where I’ve been with guys where I’ve been spoken to negatively by a guy or a friend. I always find reasoning why. “No, but I understand. No, but I know there are traumas. No, but I know what I meant.”

You make excuses for them.

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When I say loving, I don’t mean only loving relationships. I mean like friendships and family. I’m so loving to a default that sometimes it’s a curse. I’m trying to learn how to have boundaries with that. I feel like I learned how to have boundaries in that with my family. It made my family relationships so much stronger. That happened when I moved away. Even after the longest relationship that I had and that ended, that taught me also how to build a better relationship with my mom. I feel like learning those boundaries and her respecting the boundaries that I asked her made our relationship stronger. Now I got to work on that in relationships, of loving relationships with a guy and in friendships. Sometimes, I’m not saying always, I stay quiet and then I’ll blow up or I’ll distance myself and people are like, “What happened? I got so used to treating you this way,” or even work-related. Sometimes I’ll be okay with not standing up for myself in the workplace. I’m like, “I’ll grow with time.” It’s like, “No.”

I have experienced that. Let’s say I had a campaign that I’ve had to do and they were like, “We’ll pay you this much.” I’m like, “I deserve a little more. This is what I normally get paid.” I’m very shy about it. I think at one point in my life and I always talk about this. When I had my son, my priorities shifted. I’m not doing this for this price because I deserve more but because the quality you’re getting is worth the price. I’m not charging you thousands. I’m not crazy. I’m not one of those $60,000 pay me for YouTube video girls. I’m charging you what I truly deserve and what you’re getting for that price. Sometimes you have to have maybe an experience like that and it doesn’t have to be a child. It can be something within yourself. Maybe at one point in therapy, your therapist will say something and you’ll go, “It makes sense now.”

It’s so weird, I always compare it and this is such a girl way to compare this too, but do you know those curling irons that have the clasp?

Yeah.

I could not for the life of me know how to curl my hair with that. It was so technical to me that I would always only use a wand. I got one time and I was like, “I am determined to freaking learn how to do this.” I would always crimp my hair wrong and all this stuff. One day I looked at it and I turned it on and it just clicked. “Yanina, this is how you do it. This is how you put your arm down.” I was like, “I know how to do it.” I feel like in life, that’s why I said I can’t push somebody’s journey. You can tell something to someone. You can try to guide them, but you can’t force them and you can’t do it for them.

Sometimes in life and everything in me from my last relationship when I decided nothing happened crazy, that’s it. We’re done. It’s not working anymore. When I decided to tell my mom, “We’re either having these boundaries and we’re going to have a relationship or I’m sorry, it’s not going to work. I’m going to love you from a far distance.” Many things from the same thing. I stopped going to a lot of events because I didn’t feel good when I was going to these events. I felt like I’m not talking to any of these girls. I’m not getting anything out of this. I’m showing on social media, “I’m busy just to show you I’m busy.” I’m not making money from coming to this event, so why am I here? I’m wasting makeup, I’m wasting time. I’m wasting energy. It’s draining me. I felt low key to depression. I was going from event to event and I was getting nothing internally out of any of these things. I was like, “I have to learn how to say no.” Even if I’m home bored, at least I’m in my sanctuary.

You’re happy in that sanctuary.

The same thing with friends. The same thing with family. Protecting your energy is so important because you only have so much of it. In therapy, they tell you that you have two water bottles. One and the other person or the other thing that you’re dealing with in life. If you’re constantly just pouring your water bottle into theirs or into the thing and nothing is coming back into your water bottle, you’re going to be a drought. You’ve got to make sure that the person, the place, whatever it is that you’re doing is fulfilling you back. Not to be taken incorrectly that friendships should be transactional because I don’t believe in that. It’s not about like, “What can you do for me and I’ll do for you.”

No, it’s not that. I know what you mean. It’s more like I pour my love into this and I just want that love back. That fulfillingness that you feel when a friendship is great and strong.

You don’t have to do anything physically for me or financially. I know you got me. I know you’re there for me and I know that you genuinely care for me. It’s not you genuinely call me to see how I’m doing because you’re going to need me tomorrow.

No. It’s because you love me and you actually care to know how I’m doing. When we first spoke, you said to me that your past does not determine your future. I want to hear more about what you mean by that.

I think coming from a third world country, I had a shock in the sense of family. I had a shock in the sense of what was what a lot of the times. For example, in a third world country, they think that you come to the States and you become an instant millionaire. It wasn’t. It wasn’t a thing. They’re like, “You’re a superstar. You’re famous. You’re a millionaire. Even now with social media, they’re like, “You’re so famous.” I’m like, “No, I’m not.”

I come from a third world country as well, Armenia. Their perspective is shifted because they see America as the ultimate place to live. This huge opportunity where the money is just everywhere and it’s not the case. I feel like the more family you have here, the more people that they know in America, it’s a little shifted and different. They’re a little more grounded in their thoughts, but I can totally relate.

There are a lot of things I lived while growing up that a lot of people don’t know and I think there are a time and place for them to come out. There are so many things that therapists, that family members, that friends, that detectives have told me and they’re like, “There is no way that you’re so sweet and nice and all this stuff has happened to you.” I sat down with a guy one time at a Panera Bread. He writes books. He’s an author and he was like, “There’s something about you that’s interesting. I want you to tell me your story from top to bottom.” I was like, “Sure.” We were in Panera Bread for 5.5 hours. I told him from the earliest memory that I had all the way until the date that we were sitting in. He was like, “What the F? You’re lying.” I was like, “What?” He’s like, “How are you just like, ‘Yeah, whatever,’ and this happened?” I was like, “Because I healed from it. It’s my journey. I feel like my purpose comes from that.” He was like, “I would have never thought all that stuff would’ve happened to you. You’re here wearing pink with the makeup so well put together, positive, striving to be better, acknowledging. Being so aware of weaknesses and of your flaws, but still being like, ‘That’s not going to stop me.’” I was like, “Because I don’t want to be one, a bitter middle-aged woman that is like, ‘Nobody cares about me.’”

IW 11 | Yanina Oyarzo
Yanina Oyarzo: Protecting your energy is so important because you only have so much of it.

 

Or, “All this happened. Why did it happen to me?”

We have those aunts, family members that you’re like, “Why are you so angry always?” I didn’t want to do that. I didn’t want to be that person. I didn’t want to be the person that said, “What if,” at 50. I didn’t want to be the person that was like, “I never tried again because this person broke my heart.” I was like, “You’re dealing with humans.” At least speaking for myself, I don’t know what I’m doing half the time. I’m still trying to figure it out.

You’re human. That’s the point. We make mistakes but we can learn from it.

When it comes to social media, a lot of people are like, “I don’t want to be looked up to.” Is that weird to say?

Why?

I want to feel like you can be me. I don’t want you to aspire to be me.

I feel like when they look up to you, isn’t it in an inspirational way like, “I inspire to have her strength?”

I don’t want to be inspirational in the sense of the travel Instagrams or the high-end stuff.

You want to be inspirational for who you are.

I want to be inspirational for my reality. I don’t want to be inspirational for the beauty behind the madness. I want to be an inspiration for who I truly am. When I’m crying, when I’m happy, when I’m freaking confused on, “I don’t know what my next move is.” I’m like, “You guys think I’m so inspirational and so great and I don’t know what to do next with my life.” I want to be that person that sees the light at the end of the tunnel and is able to do something of herself rather than unattainable. I do feel like that’s my purpose and that’s what I’m supposed to be. When I do speak at those high schools, I’ve gotten thank you letters that have literally brought me to tears because that’s what I wanted to achieve. They’re like, “I can be you.”

It’s not like this Louis bag that’s in the museum that no person’s ever going to be able to purchase. No, you can be me. You can be better than me. I want to be able to tell you what I did so that you don’t go through it and that you’re more aware sooner. I told somebody this. I said, “Why is it that we have all these women being inspirational, but they’re all in their 40s and 50s? Why is there no inspirational woman even saying, “I don’t get it all together, but this is what I got together so far,” in their twenties? That will probably help younger girls faster. If I had somebody to listen to that to be like, “I don’t have it all together, but what I have figured out is that at least these little points,” that might’ve helped me so much. If I can be that person, even if it’s just one girl, I’ll be so grateful.

I feel the same way. That’s where this came to be. I thought if I could help one person going through a divorce or hearing your story, someone who came from a third world country, who experienced maybe trauma or whatever you’ve gone through and can still find the light at the end of the tunnel, we all can. It’s a matter of shifting all the negative thoughts and stop focusing on it. Stop focusing on why did this happen in my life? Why did I have to go through this experience? That’s a hard thing. I don’t know when that shift happened for you, but as you said, you were a lot angrier as a kid. I’ve had bitter moments. I was a bitter B at one point. There’s so much that happens in your life that you go, “Why me?” and that’s okay too.

It’s also okay if you still have different angry moments in different aspects. Maybe I don’t have angry moments towards my childhood anymore, but I’m angry at times when it comes to relationships. It’s something that I’m still overcoming and I’m still dealing with. I’m angry sometimes with why certain things happen the way they did.

How do you deal with that anger?

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You are real with yourself and you’re like, “This isn’t the reality.” Snap yourself out of it, feel what you’ve got to feel right or what you got right. Are you going to stay here angry forever or are you going to figure it out? It’s being transparent with yourself before you’re transparent with anyone else.

Does journaling help you?

It does to me but as of late, I’m getting lazy. Writing sometimes, my words in my brain are faster than the words I’m writing out, so I have to type. I type a lot or I’ll call a friend sometimes and be like, “I don’t need your advice,” because that’s another thing. Just because a friend is telling you your problem does not mean that they want your advice. Sometimes they just need to vent. I’m like, “I don’t need your advice. Just hear me out.” By the end of the conversation of me saying it out loud, I figured out my solution.

Are you and I twins or something? That happens to me all the time.

I’m like, “I don’t need your input. I figured it out. I’ll call you back.”

My girlfriend will say like, “I think,” “No, I got it. Thank you so much for listening. I’ve got to go. Bye.” Speaking out loud, you’re listening to yourself talk about something or you’re mad at something. During the process you hear yourself out loud and that’s when it clicks.

You’re able to categorize your thoughts. The way I see it is maybe it’s because I’m always hungry, but I always say my mind is a stew, so I’m like, “I’ve got to separate the vegetables in this to be able to be like, ‘What do you need to do?’” The moment I’m able to separate everything, there is clarity.

How do you think your life experiences have shaped you to be the woman you are now?

It depends on life experience.

Just in general, overall and everything you’ve gone through in life.

I think don’t judge a book by its cover based on my own experience. I will always be a hopeless romantic. I was in a seven-year relationship that didn’t work out. It had its great moments and it had its really bad moments. It had its horrible moments. It taught me so much about life because I lost myself so much in it to the point that when we broke up, I didn’t even know what I liked to wear. I didn’t even know what I liked to eat. It reminded me to not lose myself like that ever again in loving someone so much. In family, it taught me that every family has their crap. I don’t care how perfect, how Goldilocks they looked, every family has their thing. I don’t want to say embarrassed because it’s such a nasty word and it’s not the word I’m thinking of. Don’t ever be scared to speak your truth about your family or your circumstances because maybe somebody else doesn’t relate and isn’t having that problem, but they have a problem.

No one’s perfect. We all have issues. What is one thing you would say to any young lady or woman reading and feeling like their current reality will always be their norm for their life?

If you feel stuck, seek help and that does not make you weak. Therapy to me has literally changed my life. I wouldn’t be the person now if I didn’t have therapists all throughout growing up. I would also say it doesn’t matter where you came from, whether you had a family, you didn’t have a family, you were an orphan, a foster care, you were a single child or you had a family of seven. Whether you came from a third world country or you grew up here on a single-family home, a mansion or an efficiency. Ultimately, you’re not your parents. You’re not your background. You’re not your neighborhood. You are who you want to be. In my family, my mom is the flower child, a hippie who grew up in the ‘80s and loved rock. We couldn’t be more night and day from each other because I am my own identity and what I want to strive for is fine. It doesn’t make me think that I’m more or less than her. My sister is a freaking genius, is obsessed with everything about the heart. She is obsessed with biology. We couldn’t be more different either. It doesn’t make her any less or better or me any less or better because I’m about glam and pretty stuff and fashion.

She is so dope to me. When you put us next to each other, you wouldn’t think that I would see the dopeness in her, but she’s so dope to me. She’s so intelligent. I think that whether it’s because of your siblings, because you’re comparing yourself to your environment, your friends, school, that’s not your ending stop. What you decide to do with your life is up to you. If money is an issue, there are opportunities out there. There are ways to figure it out from different jobs to scholarships. There is Google. There is an answer to everything. The next president can be a foster child. Why can’t they? A kid that grows up rich could be a druggie. I don’t think there’s anything that can stop you but yourself. That’s why no matter what things I’m faced or what obstacles I’m thrown at, I’m like, “No, this is not my reality.” My reality is what I have in my head and watch how I make it happen.

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Yanina Oyarzo: Seeking help when you are stuck does not make you weak.

 

I think the first thing is believing that.

You’ve got to believe it. If you feel like it’s too hard to attain, it’s going to be that. You remember in that video game in Mario when you’re chasing to go get the princess Diana and it’s that dark hallway and it looks so far away. In Mario Kart, when you’re trying to rescue the princess, there’s this point when you’re in the castle and there’s this dark hallway and it just looks like it’s a never-ending hallway. If that’s your mentality, that’s how it’s going to stay. The day that you figure out that your mentality is shifting and actually does start shifting, you’re going to start seeing light coming from that tunnel. As cheesy and as stupid as it sounds, that tunnel is going to get smaller and smaller and the next thing you know, you’re getting closer and closer.

It’s all about your perspective, believing that you can and then putting in the hard work to whatever it is you want to do.

It’s not going to be easy. I’ve been doing what I have been doing since I was literally eighteen years old. The internet, economy, marketing and modeling world has changed. The hosting world has changed, which is how I started. You’ve got to blend and mold with the times and figure out, “How can I make this stand out more?” If finances are a problem from medical school, get the freaking loan. Half of America is and debt, you’ll pay it over. You’ll figure it out.

For sure the first step is definitely believing that you can because if you’re sitting there saying, “I can’t, but I want,” it makes no sense. You’re never going to get there. Your brain is your strongest muscle and you can trick your brain into believing it can. Even if you feel like you can’t, keep saying I can.

I have things in my room, “It’s not I will. It’s I am.” It’s like, “I am getting a contract of X amount. I am traveling for work. If it’s, “I will,” that can happen in five years or in five months. What do you want to happen? I want it to happen now. Whether the universe says now is three months from now or three years from now, to me it’s, “I’m putting in the universe now.”

What can we expect to see more from you? What can we look forward to seeing? Are you going to do acting soon and be in movies?

I am trying out some stuff. I’m known a lot for my commercial and print. I did start in hosting for Title and a lot of other companies, so I’m going back into several opportunities with that. A lot of people know that I did start in the music industry, in a music management company. I do handle a few different things in that sense that I’m still playing with, but I’m private about it until it comes out. Not me being a singer, don’t worry. Honing in on all my creative wants, whether it’s somebody else in front of the camera or I’m in front of the camera and not being scared. For a long time I was like, “I don’t know. Is it me setting myself out?” I was like, “No, you’re creative. Just do it.” You never know how that can throw you in a different direction. I’m running and taking a leap of faith and being more creative and believing in myself as much as I believe in other people. I’m great in believing at other people, but I put so many obstacles in front of me at times that I cringe and I freeze. I’m like, “Stop it.” I’m forcing myself.

Where can we follow you?

My website is YaninaOyarzo.com. My Instagram and Twitter is @Yanina_Oyarzo. I don’t go on Snapchat, and I haven’t gone into that TikTok phase. That’s how I am. I always reply to people as long as you’re not weird and creepy.

Thank you so much for coming on the show.

Thank you.

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About Yanina Oyarzo

IW 11 | Yanina OyarzoYanina Oyarzo is a Venezuelan-American lifestyle influencer sharing her beauty tricks, fashion tips, music finds and adventures via her social media channels. Obsessed with sharing love, light and confidence, Yanina’s target audience is young female hustlers such as herself.

Since a young age, Yanina aspired to turn her love for beauty and music into a career in TV hosting. In 2011, she moved to Los Angeles to help expand a music management firm she helped create in her hometown of Miami. The firm was home to several chart-topping songwriters, producers and artists. With her fast-thinking and feisty personality, Yanina quickly built strong relationships with upcoming talent, lifestyle brands and music executives while building a fan base of her own. Her social media following quickly landed her partnerships with top brands such as American Express, Nike, Neutrogena, Tidal and Zara.

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